When you complain about something, you are expressing your discontentment. You are saying “I’m not okay with the way things are.”
Which, in and of itself, is an okay thought to have. There will always be situations where you are not content with the reality of what’s going on.
But what you do after that thought is important.
In most cases, you have three options:
- Complain – If you are discontent with something, you can complain about it. You can tell other people and yourself, that you are not happy with what is going on. As you complain, you turn the reality of an objective situation into a negative emotion within you (and others).
- Accept and Move On – If the source of your discontentment is not in your control, you have the option to accept it as is, and move on with your life. You can acknowledge that the situation simply exists without your ability to intervene.
- Take Action – If you can control the situation, you can turn your discontentment into action. You can make a change, or work with others on making a change. Instead of complaining, you can find a solution.
Of these three options, people who are “complainers” will always opt for the first choice. It’s the easiest. No inquiry required, just create negative feelings for yourself and those around you.
But disciplined people will choose option 2 or 3. Those who can understand what is in their control, and those who are action-oriented. These are the people who will live most simply, and also be respected by their peers.
So as you go about your day, try to think how you are responding to feelings of discontentment. Choose not to complain.
This post is Day 6 of 21 Days of Simple.