When are you living? It may seem like a silly question. Of course, you are living right now! You can look at a calendar and tell me the exact date, and a clock, the exact time. But the reality is that most people are not living right now. They are living either in the past […]
The Problem of Chronic Stress
Built into our bodies is a powerful stress response system. It allows us to quickly and effectively respond to immediate threats in our environment. At the first sign of danger, our bodies enter the process of fight or flight. Sending extra blood flow to muscles that are used to run and fight. Stopping our evolved […]
Unlimited External Problems
There is no limit to the number of external problems that you can have. Your work can be frustrating. Your car can be old. Your kids can be moody. The weather can be crappy. You can disagree with a politician’s actions. Your home can have flaws. You might not have enough money. A friend can […]
A Phone Without Feeds
Feeds. These algorithmically designed platforms. With each flick of the finger, you get another hit of curated content. With an endless supply of viral videos, clickbait articles, and sponsored content available, there is no limit on how much you will want to scroll. In addition to the feeds, you get notifications. Sometimes it’s that somebody […]
The Benevolent Ego
Our ego is at the heart of our selfish thoughts and acts. It’s that voice in our head that is distinctly ours. It’s the ego in us that wants to be seen, heard, and admired. The ego needs to be important. We often will try to avoid the “ego” by doing good in the world. […]
Life’s Zoom Feature
Zooming in, and zooming out. Changing your life’s zoom level is a great way to change your perspective. Especially when you feel like life is overwhelming or not going your way. By zooming in, you can be more mindful. You can focus on the present moment, your breath, your body, and objectively observe your thoughts […]
Asking Better Questions
The best leaders, teachers, and critical thinkers all share a common trait – they ask good questions. They know that the only way to get better answers is to ask better questions. Asking questions narrows your focus, eliminates contradictions, and gets you to the core of your inquiry. Socrates famously used the “Socratic method” to […]
What Doesn’t Kill You
As the old saying goes, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” There is a reason to give thanks to 2020. This is a year that made many of us stronger. The challenges that we’ve faced this year have shown us what we can overcome. Being forced into isolation, major economic shutdowns, political strife, public […]
A Leader of Your Own Life
You have to be the leader of your own life. If you don’t choose your own priorities, actions, and mindset, it will be chosen for you. Other people will dictate what your life becomes. The longer you let this happen, the harder it will be for you to lead yourself again. So be a leader. […]
The Reality Gap
The Reality Gap – This is the space between the actual reality of our lives, and the world of our desires. On one side of the gap is our actual reality. This is the world we live in. This is the present moment and everything that is occurring or exists within it. On the other […]